I once heard that in less than a generation the majority of us will be completely forgotten as if we never existed with the exception of our family stories being passed down as generational curses or blessings.
If we want to be remembered then we need to care for our own circle, even if, and no matter what.

One of the biggest changes in my marriage came when I told my husband that our children and my self would dance at his funeral. He realized that he didn't want to be remembered as a perpetual stubborn bear, and set out to win all our hearts back. He has completely succeeded, and I trust that he will be remembered by his later days than by his earlier years.